Ashes and an urn you note as a location, not as a value

Ashes are not a good with a price and not an item on the asset side of the estate inventory. An urn has no value that you estimate in order to make the list complete. What the file needs is the location and the wish. The wish comes from the life file or from the funeral director's instruction, not from a vote around the table after the day. Write where the ashes are: with the director, in an urn at home, or placed at a spot the paper names. Also write who issued that paper and on which date. A memory without a location is a task, not a closed line.

The life file may already have recorded, during life, what someone wanted done with the ashes. That text remains a wish. It does not become ownership, and it does not become a bequest (legaat), merely because it stands in the file. The funeral director often has a separate instruction: where the ashes are kept, until when the director holds them, and who may collect them. Take that instruction over as it is written. Do not invent a retention period if the director does not name one. If the wish in the life file conflicts with the instruction, you note both and you let the director say which step is now open. You do not choose a third destination in a note.

On the line stand the location, the bearer of the wish, and the date of the last message. Names of people who may take the ashes go with them if the director or the paper names those names. A family member who is not on that paper does not get a key role in the file because it seems practical. The ashes do not go into the distribution as an object that must be valued. If there is an invoice from the director, that belongs with the funeral costs, not with the ashes themselves. The ashes line stays without an amount. Ervazo keeps the note and, if you write to the director, the letter and the reply. It does not send them.

Ashes and an urn belong in the file as a location and as a wish, not as an asset. The source is the life file or the instruction of the funeral director. Where those two are silent, the line stays open. No one fills in the destination with a customary gesture. This is not legal advice. What may be done with the ashes is confirmed by the funeral director from the instruction and the wish. If a place at a cemetery or with the municipality is needed, that body confirms the placement. Whether a will contains the wish as a last will is confirmed by the notary, not by this piece.